Letter of condolence is often very difficult to write. It is an art to write a well-crafted condolence letter. One must possess this skill of writing an effective condolence letter, because at some point of life you will have to send a condolence letter either to your family, friends or your colleagues. Many people avoid sending condolence letters as they are not able to jot down their emotions in writing. If are unable to jot down your thoughts, then a little guidance can help you to write an effective condolence letter.
Some general tips to write an effective condolence letter:
- Actual letter: Writing a condolence letter does not include sending email or a Facebook update to the bereaved person. To give a personal feeling to the other person, you must write an actual letter to comfort that person. A hand written letter always generates more comfort than an email or even a condolence card.
- Your relationship with the deceased: It is very important to introduce yourself in the letter, if the family of the deceased does not know you.
- Mention something good about the deceased: Discuss something good about the deceased in your letter. Let the family know something about the deceased that you feel that they might be unaware of, like “how much he cared about you”, “he often spoke about your family”, etc. While writing this letter be original and write something that would leave a good mark in the recipients heart.
- Offer Assistance: A bereaved person is often in an emotionally raw state, so he/she might need help and support from someone. So, if you are ready to offer assistance to the bereaved person then do mention about it in your letter, but if you are not ready to offer help then do not mention about it. Also remember while you are offering any kind of help, don’t be pushy about it as the recipient might really not require your help.
- Re-read the letter: Before posting the letter, always re-read it as if you were the one receiving it. Re-checking the letter allows you to avoid writing anything that is awkward, pitying and tactful.
Follow the above mentioned tips to make sure that your condolence letter is appropriate and sounds comforting.